One obstacle to making personal change is not letting go of past baggage. Some people struggle to ask for help due to upbringing or personal beliefs.
Self motivation, self discipline, and self control are important for success. Giving 100% effort in everything can lead to exceptional achievement. Achieving personal goals can bring immense pride and happiness.
Anxiety and excitement are physiologically similar. Fear can be turned into passion and excitement. Fear is predictable and manageable. Courage is the act of overcoming fear.
Fear is a natural part of life, and it is suggested to embrace and appreciate it instead of being afraid of it. One speaker shared personal experiences of feeling tired and questioning their own worth.
Train your self-talk and don't be afraid to ask for help. Counselors can help you see your blind spots. It's important to be comfortable in your own skin and confident in asking for assistance. (Time 0:00:00)
The Obstacles to Making Personal Change
Key takeaways:
Not letting go of yesterday's baggage is a common obstacle to change.
Some people struggle to ask for help due to personal upbringing or beliefs.
Transcript:
Speaker 4
Yeah. And that, I mean, I'm sure as a performance coach, you have to deal with all the reasons why people don't want to change. So maybe let me ask you that question first before Rob jumps in. We all know that we, it's possible to change. At least there's some people who believe that, but not everyone is changing, but they all want the results of a changed life.
Speaker 2
What do you find gets in the way of people making that decision like you just said to change?
Speaker 1
Not letting go of yesterday's baggage. You know, yesterday's baggage will drag you down and keep you down. You carry it around with you everywhere you go. It affects every relationship. Every new relationship and somebody else is serving the sentence of somebody who hurts you and abused you. You'll have a person who's got an adolescent leading their life at 40 years old. What happened to them at 14 turned them into a person whose self-worth and self-esteem is measured by everything except themselves. So we are real clear that sometimes people can get stuck of yesterday's baggage. Some people are stuck by not being able to ask for help. I was trained by my father to not ask for help. My father was a good man. (Time 0:18:09)
The Power of Self-Motivation and Giving Your Best
Key takeaways:
A habit of self motivation, self discipline, and self control is important for success.
Learning to give 100% effort in everything can lead to becoming an exceptional athlete.
Achieving personal goals, like making the Dean's list, can bring immense pride and happiness.
Transcript:
Speaker 1
He said, I say, you will have a habit of self motivation, self discipline and self control. That's what I'm trying to teach you. I'm not trying to get you to be a scholar. I'm trying to get you to understand that if you can learn to give 100% of everything you do, if you can compete at everything, you'll be an unbelievable athlete. Yeah, he made it to the NFL. So that's not even a punch line. You ready? He comes in my office, gee, what you doing? He said, wait now, and you. He said, man, I got something to tell you.
Speaker 5
I said, what fool? I made the dance list.
Speaker 1
This is a real gangster from the West Coast. We're giggling and laughing and rolling in the floor because he made the Dean's list and he was shocked and overwhelmed and he was so proud of himself. And it's one of the greatest stories of my life. I have some great athletes and some great entrepreneurs and CEOs I worked with. That's one of my favorite stories in life is this kid made the Dean's list and was so happy he was beside himself.
Speaker 2
So he made a habit out of giving his best when it came to studying. (Time 0:36:37)
The Thick Line Between Anxiety and Excitedness
Key takeaways:
Anxiety and excitement are physiologically similar.
Fear can be turned into passion and excitement.
Fear is predictable and manageable.
Courage is the act of overcoming fear.
Transcript:
Speaker 1
Come on. It was the most exciting moment. But what we discover is that anxiety and excitement, there's a thin line, physiologically speaking, between how the body reacts. The same emotions show up when you're excited and when you're anxious. The same, oh my God, then I need to turn anxiety into excitement and fear into passion, into fire. That's what we do. That's what you teach. You teach people to understand that fear is predictable, therefore manageable. Fear is going to show up. You're about to do something major and you're thinking about quitting that job. And fear shows I'm talking about, I don't know about that.
Speaker 5
You're supposed to say fear.
Speaker 1
I expected you sooner. But I'll have time for you right now by promise. I know you'll be there. We'll get back together and talk about it. I'm serious. That's how I talk to as I coach. I teach my people to anticipate fear. Now, let's talk about courage. You know, the word courage doesn't exist unless we're talking about overcoming fear. (Time 0:47:51)
Being Afraid and Embracing Fear in Life
Key takeaways:
A ride called the demon drop provides an exhilarating experience, with a 10-floor drop.
Despite the common perception that smoking is no longer popular, the author observes a teenager smoking during the ride.
The ride provides a thrilling sensation as the individual plummets downwards, eliciting screams of excitement.
Modern movies with realistic imagery can evoke fear and even cause nightmares, but still provide an enjoyable experience.
Fear is a natural part of life, and it is suggested to embrace and appreciate it instead of being afraid of it.
The speaker shares personal experiences of feeling tired and questioning their own worth.
Transcript:
Speaker 1
Imagine a ride called the demon drop, for example. You get on the demon drop.
Speaker 6
It's 10 floors high and some kid.
Speaker 2
15 years old looking at his cell phone. I'm smoking a cigarette. Yep.
Speaker 6
Yeah. When no one smokes anymore, straps you into a coffin and then pulls a lever.
Speaker 1
And you plummet straight down and your stomach goes into your throat and come out your nasal passages and you're screaming at the top of your lungs. And then the hydraulic lift works and you get off and say, that was crazy. Let's do it again. You go to a movie and this day and age where now the images seem so realistic, you know you're going to have nightmares. And you're looking at it and you're crapping your pants at a movie and having the time of your life. We love being afraid. So what I'm asking you to do is stop being afraid of being afraid, except that it's part of life and sometimes enjoy it. I was tired. My sleep cycle was off. My biorethms are off. Boom, boom, boom. I woke up. I was tired. I'm saying, oh my god, why do they even want to talk to me? (Time 0:50:38)
Training our self talk and seeking help from counselors
Key takeaways:
We need to train our own self talk
Asking for help is important, even if you're successful
Counselors can help us see our blind spots
It's okay to fire a counselor and find one that fits
Asking for help shows certainty and capability
Transcript:
Speaker 1
So the self talk, the self talk, we have to train our own self talk. If I can't do it by myself, ask for help. Use a counselor as a consultant. I teach people how to use counselors.
Speaker 4
Counselors, if you were running Google, how much do you think you'd make a year? If you're running Google, you make enough money. You don't have to really count money anymore. Mm-hmm.
Speaker 5
So, but if you're running Google, would you use consultants?
Speaker 1
Yes. And you're making that much money? Why do you need to consult them? Because you can't see what you can't see. Yeah. You need someone to see your blind spots. So what I need you to understand is counselors are consultants. Duh. You're trying to run your life. And sometimes you can't see something. And if you don't like this counselor, fire his butt and get another one. You know, until you get one that fits. But you have to begin to become so comfortable in the skin you're in, that you begin to understand it is a badge of certainty. That you're capable of asking for help when you need it. I need some assistance. Come here for a minute. I'd like to talk to you. Mm-hmm. How much do you charge? Okay. You work for me? Cool. (Time 0:52:35)
